I almost always end up asking my clients this in our first session. What is it, that you want out of life? What do you want to do? What do you want to be? It usually takes a moment to answer because, quite frankly, it doesn't seem like a question we're asked very often.
Maybe when we're kids we might get asked want we want to be when we grow up, but when was the last time someone asked you what you wanted? When was the last time you asked yourself what you wanted? Do you feel that you're life is on auto pilot? You go to work, you go to the places you go, you buy your cat litter. Every two weeks some money is added to your bank account, just in time to pay all your bills.
It's an easy situation to fall into, which is why we've all been there. How do you get out of it? How can you break this cycle? Can you? Your bills need to get paid and the money comes from your job and you have to go to your job! How can this change?
We're so stuck in the cycle that all we can do is push ourselves from one day to the next. We know we want out, but we don't have time to consider how because our next shift is starting or the next bill is due.
So take a deep breath and relax. For one second, don't focus on the bills, or the money, or work. Now, focus on you. What do you want?
Take your time. Listen to yourself.
Figure it out.
Don't talk yourself out of what you want. Nothing is off the table at this stage.
It can feel impossible. From where you are to where you want to be can seem like a huge leap. But like all great journeys it starts with a single step, a simple question.
What do you want?